Craft Shaming
forecasts, and trimming the tree. It’s also time to be bombarded with CRAFTS,
ADVENT, and BAKING plans that would make Martha proud (could be Martha Stewart
or busy Martha from Luke chapter 10. Take your pick).
festivities can rob us of Holiday joy. The pinterest perfect projects might
feel like they overshadow the true meaning of Christmas. I know how that feels!
That’s actually not what I want to talk about though. I want to help you
remember that other mom’s holiday hubbub does not really concern you. You don’t
have to compete, you don’t need to compare, and you defiantly don’t need to
make fun of anyone else for their choices.
anti-craft. I see just as many craft shaming blogs and memes as I do tutorials
lately. Some of them are funny. Some of them are BULLIES! Most of the time if
you see someone publicly shaming another person because they are skinny, or
crafty, or powerful, it is because the person doing the bullying is insecure.
a Pottery Barn Christmas decor ad, or what someone does with their elf, or how
much time they spent collecting toilet paper rolls and turning them into
reindeer. You do Christmas your way and don’t worry about it. I am not talking
about spiritual convictions here. I am simply referring to the amount of time
spent on embellishments.
my mind since I noticed everyone from organic moms to back to school moms
getting grief for how they choose to spend their time and money. Then I
stumbled upon this link on Face book posted by a bride-to-be. The article was
written by another bride who was fed up with all the hype that goes into
wedding planning, which is totally understandable. She had all kinds of
complaints about those kinds of brides and those kinds of
weddings and how super low key and laid back her wedding would be. I didn’t
think too much of it. In fact I relate because I have my own rants about the
wedding business these days. Then I read a comment from the bride’s grandmother
(or wise older relative of some kind). It said something to the effect of
celebrating with [the groom] and you in whatever way you desire. I have to say,
however, that the shared link made me feel a bit sad for the writer who felt
compelled to be critical and negative in order to claim their own uniqueness. I
believe you are more confident in being comfortable expressing who God created
you to be, and your family loves and respects you for that. No justifications
of individuality are needed!
of individuality are needed!”.
the comment and shared it with some friends and my husband and now 6
months later I am sharing it with you. This woman I don’t even know so
profoundly spelled out exactly what I have been feeling about these mom
bullies. Don’t get me wrong, I have a sense of humor, but I also don’t want to
send mixed messages to the little ones about why it is okay to shame
someone even if they do get up at 4:00 am to make an elaborate scene for their
elf on a shelf.
not sit in the seat of scoffers.
verse
scoffer sets his derision on other people. The scoffer
has a general sense of everyone else’s inadequacies, and very little sense of
his own. He loves to take his seat and entertain his friends with narratives of
other men’s shortcomings (Proverbs 18:8;
26:22). He is a man of division (Proverbs 16:28).
He may be the life of the party, but when he goes out peace comes in (Proverbs 22:10;
26:20).
going for 2015). Let’s celebrate our simplicity or creativity in our own unique
ways. Whether you only purchase fair trade presents, or make all of your
presents, or start your holiday shopping on Thanksgiving Eve we can find ways
to build each other up regardless. We can just enjoy the holidays as the one of
kind individuals that we are. No justification needed.