So once we know that we don’t control others and that anger short circuits learning how the heck do we get our family out the door in the morning? How do we leave the park when the fun is over, or get our children to do their homework, or go to bed at night? I mean, I am a fan of bribery when [...]

It's day 12 of the 31 days of Teachable Parenting challenge and I've given a lot of Bible verses and shared a lot about matters of the heart. That is the core of Teachable Parenting. It isn't a formula that you memorize. It's a lifestyle. However, I know everyone (myself included) wants examples of what that looks like and direction on how to [...]

I know the Keep Calm memes got old a while ago, but it really does apply here!  We've discussed loving responses for mistakes and emotional outbursts. We also talked about how empathy is so much more effective than anger when disciplining a child. Today I am going to touch on how and why you should keep calm when your children are really pushing [...]

The foundation of my beliefs in what I have been labeling “Teachable Parening” is that my family unit can be a reflection of God’s relationship with us. When we look at the Bible to see how God relates to us as his children, we see that in the Old Testament there was a system of external control. There were priests that were your connection to God and sacrifices for [...]

For those that were raised under a stern voice and an iron fist it might seem like those methods are the only reasonable way to bring instruction to those we love. It’s for their own good right? I understand that so much of this, what I will call good-old-fashioned parenting style was done out of love. Some may even boast that it was [...]

You may notice I talk a lot about allowing things to happen because that would be the opposite of controlling. Yesterday was about allowing our children to make mistakes. Today's focus is allowing our children to feel.  The controlling parent route is rigid and external. It’s using your dominance as the parent to eliminate mistakes, eliminate screaming, crying, pouting etc. None of this [...]